75 friends have opened a study shared with them this month.
After I got married, I realized that I was not nearly as spiritually mature as I had believed. One night I paced around our apartment, checking the Find My Location over and over again, upset that my wife still hadn't left work. Despite years of going to church, preparing and leading Bible studies, and even earning an M.Div. degree, I realized I still hadn't learned how to put my wife before myself. It took years of humble apologies, desperate prayers, and support from wise mentors to break free of my many immaturities.
Galatians 5:22-25
But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control. The law is not against such things. Now those who belong to Christ Jesus have crucified the flesh with its passions and desires. If we live by the Spirit, let us also keep in step with the Spirit.
One of my hobbies is photography. I particularly enjoy standing before a beautiful flower and trying to honor its fleeting beauty. Sitting with flowers has helped me understand the significance of Paul talking about the fruit of the Spirit. He could have told us about "the character of the hard-working Christian." If he had, we'd think we need to grit our teeth and push harder to please God. But fruit doesn't happen because you push harder. Flowers and fruit develop because a living plant is nourished by the sun, rain, and soil. It's the final part of a slow, unhurried, but inevitable process. Sometimes we hear stories of God changing people's lives in dramatic ways. But orchards don't grow overnight. Fig trees can take three years to produce fruit. Year to year, you can't see much of a difference. But one day, you go outside and realize there's something to eat. At the same time, God doesn't want us flopping around like dead fish. Dallas Willard explained that grace is not opposed to effort, but to earning. We're invited to be active participants in God's renovation of our souls. Nor is this a lonely, self-imposed goal. Paul wrote to a community that knew and loved each other. The Spirit's fruit develops as we love one another. And keeping in step with the Spirit isn't like trying to run with a friend who does marathons every weekend. The Spirit sets a pace in our lives that enables us to take the next step from where we are today. One day, we'll be like Christ. In the meantime, spiritual growth isn't something we can manufacture. It's the byproduct of staying connected to the vine and one another. You can ask my wife.
When you think about your own spiritual growth, what frustrates you?
Where's one area of your life where, if you're honest, you see how God has enabled you to be a little kinder or more patient than you used to be?
What makes it hard to trust that slow, invisible growth is real growth?
The next time you see a friend who's known you for at least a few years, ask for their perspective. Ask them: "I'm trying to identify how God is at work in my life. What's one way you've seen him help me grow since we became friends?" Don't fish for compliments. Just listen. Let someone else name the fruit you can't see from the inside.
75 friends have opened a study shared with them this month.