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"Why do you dress like that?" Vivian Kent stutters, "Like...?" In the Netflix show *Inventing Anna*, she's visiting t...

Community

We sat in the main meeting room for a white elephant gift party. Even though all the gifts were randomly selected, and m...

Serving Others

I want to evaluate God's ideas and follow the ones that make sense. If his suggestions are difficult, costly, or even in...

Obedience

“One of the girls in our small group came to me after maybe a year or so of listening to people and she was like, ‘I fee...

Discipleship

"After I got hurt by a church, only one person ever reached out to make it right." I thought that seemed unlikely. In an...

Forgiveness

I had just asked him to tell me the story of his commitment to Jesus. He answered by telling me about a long chain of di...

Sharing Faith

Two days after the second meeting of the Bible study I had proudly nicknamed "Awesome Group," a couple got in touch to e...

Community

I walked slowly down the potluck tables, overloading my paper plate with rotisserie chicken, a green bean casserole, and...

Friendship

I wanted to live in Dorchester to serve a struggling neighborhood. But no one from my church had ever visited, and a num...

Suffering & Pain

The pastor asked if he could take me to lunch. I was eager to say yes. After the meal arrived, he asked me if my wife co...

Church Hurt

A user on Reddit asked, "What's something you've never told anyone, but can tell a bunch of strangers on Reddit?" 1,600...

Loneliness

I was standing in the foyer of a massive megachurch, watching everyone else do what I couldn't figure out how to do. Eve...

Loneliness

I visualized myself as being toxic, like a radioactive substance hidden in a glass test tube. Who would want to be assoc...

Community

"It's a shooting star!" "What, where?" (Obviously, they were far above our heads). I scrambled to find the tent's zipper...

Hope

A new church initiative led a friend to quit his job, sell his belongings, and move overseas for missionary service. But...

Following Jesus

While visiting Chattanooga, I walked to the Walnut Street Bridge and found a plaque honoring Ed Johnson. I learned that...

Truth

The job posting for a senior pastor required "transformational leadership," "top-notch" Bible teaching, and meeting "sta...

Humility

I ran my hand across the leather cover of my study Bible and thought, "I have no idea what I just read." If reading an e...

Bible Reading

In a training video for pastors, the megachurch leader Josh Howerton advises them to set aside time to answer the questi...

Discipleship

I sat in my seat, head bowed, hands open, but I couldn't focus on God. Prayer warriors were circling the room, wearing I...

Prayer

In March 2007, I flew to the Bay Area for InterVarsity's Asian American Staff Conference. During the conference, they se...

Reconciliation

"I appreciate what you're doing, but I can't get involved. I hope you understand." I did understand. Our family had t...

Love

In 2012, Steven Furtick's book *Greater* debuted at an impressive #4 on the *New York Times* Advice Best Sellers List. B...

Discipleship

Fifteen years ago, a freshman and I met every week at a hip coffee shop in Boston for a Bible study. We sat at a tiny ro...

Discipleship

A group at church asked me to speak to them about how to stay connected to their kids who had walked away from Jesus. As...

Discipleship

A friend at church said he struggled to have a quiet time. I had to suppress a smile because his inconsistency made me f...

Pride

"I'm your pastor. Tell me." I looked down at my burger, then out the window of Huey's, looking down Madison Avenue in...

Worship

"For five months I've perceived you as being arrogant to me. So I've been praying for you every day and trying to start...

Faith

I showed up for RZIM's beloved Christmas party. We played fun games, received our Christmas bonuses, and heard that we w...

Surrender

"You might be right, but you're not doing it in the right way." When my high school English teacher confronted me on...

Love

For ten years after college, I worked as a campus minister. So, my income depended on the sacrificial giving of others....

Anxiety & Worry

When I was going through a tough season in my life, one friend kept reaching out. I felt weird pouring out so many compl...

Love

When I first started using Facebook, I was amazed that I could be friends with anyone. I made over a thousand friends, s...

Loneliness

"I will have no right to participate in the reconstruction of Christian life in Germany after the war if I do not share...

Friendship

On December 3, 2017, Ravi Zacharias published a series of audacious lies in Christianity Today to avoid accountability f...

Church Hurt

My wife and I once made a small gift to a cause we cared about. It's been a few years, and we're still getting automated...

Generosity & Giving

"Thank you Heavenly Father...to allow us to send a message to all the tyrants, the communists, and the globalists that t...

Following Jesus

I once got incredibly angry at one of my roommates because he wrote a blog with what I considered bad theology. I felt I...

Grace

“You want to be like a cat on a screen door.” I looked blankly at my mentor. I tried to imagine a cat hanging for its...

Discipleship

On March 16, 1968, Warrant Officer Hugh Thompson was flying a helicopter over My Lai in Vietnam. As he looked down, he s...

Friendship
Faith

My friends kept inviting me to hang out with them and Sam. They were patient and kind with him, whether he was depressed...

Love

In seminary, I took a preaching class that required us to give mini-sermons in front of our peers. I agonized over every...

Humility

As I've listened to my secular friends, I get the sense that for many of them, love is the highest virtue. If something...

Love

One of the perks of working at RZIM was access to the Green Room. When we hosted packed events at our headquarters, it f...

Grace

A former friend said there was "nothing Christian" about my "evil" actions, so he'd asked our former employer to cancel...

Sharing Faith

Christianity Today tells the story of a pastor who drives two members of his church to work every day. They're legal imm...

Following Jesus

We lived in an apartment complex next to one of Atlanta's largest churches. Every Sunday, we walked across the parking l...

Friendship

I was twenty-four, running through a park near Waynoka Avenue in Memphis. Mile two, maybe three. The cold air burned my...

Community

Sitting in the library at the University of Aberdeen, I argued with an atheist for seven hours. By the end of the day, I...

Community

Growing up, I sometimes felt jittery when dinner ran late, or I had more homework to do. I wanted to turn on the TV and...

Sharing Faith

I was on a global Skype call with RZIM's senior leaders and Ravi Zacharias himself—the famous apologist whose ministry w...

Courage

After I resigned from Ravi Zacharias International Ministries, a spiritual darkness descended. I'd held the gaslighting,...

Lament & Sorrow

At the end of every school year, I always looked forward to getting the yearbook. The first thing I did was turn to the...

Community

At Thanksgiving, we gathered in the kitchen, joined hands, bowed our heads, and prayed. But I wondered, "What's the poin...

Prayer

In the fall of 2003, I was sitting in a chair outside Emory's dining hall by myself. But suddenly, I felt surrounded by...

Discipleship

"This is the first time I've been able to sing a worship song since my pastor abused me." I didn't know what to say....

Healing

As I turned from East Parkway onto Union Avenue in Memphis, I asked the student going to the service project with me how...

Friendship

I dropped the weights and collapsed onto the weight bench. I wasn't physically tired, but an intrusive thought had shut...

Church Hurt

After I got married, I realized that I was not nearly as spiritually mature as I had believed. One night, I paced around...

Community

"I just called everyone on my phone and told them about Jesus." I was stunned. I didn't even know she was a Christian...

Sharing Faith

A best-selling apologist called me to talk about Ravi. He agreed that Ravi was a liar, a bully, and a predator. Then he...

Courage

During COVID, our church moved to live-streamed worship and Zoom calls for community groups. While I enjoyed the convers...

Loneliness

After enduring spiritual abuse as an employee at RZIM, I could only trust a very small handful of people. I no longer kn...

Following Jesus

The story about Jesus flipping tables is awkward. It's used both to rationalize posting rage bait online and to attack J...

Justice

In The Voyage of the Dawn Treader by C.S. Lewis, the Narnians arrive at an island at the edge of the world, where they m...

Following Jesus

In Barracks 28 of the Ravensbrück concentration camp, Betsie ten Boom coughed on a bed stuffed with fleas and lice. Corr...

Salvation

When I was fifteen, my grandfather asked if he could talk with me for a moment. I could tell from the tone of his voice...

Courage

I drive by the old RZIM headquarters at least once a week. Every time, I reactively grip my steering wheel tighter, look...

Repentance

A church consulting group produced a report on how to engineer church growth. They recommend using data analytics to und...

The Holy Spirit

Chuck Johnston, my high school Bible study leader, taught me the book of James. I don't remember anything he said. But...

Discipleship

If any organization should have represented God well, it was Ravi Zacharias International Ministries. I worked there....

Doubt & Questions

When I studied abroad in England for six months, I wanted to make friends. I know we usually avoid investing in someone...

Friendship

At the summer conference, the food was passable, and the bunk beds were hard. But whether the staff were stacking chairs...

Discipleship

As the starting gun cracked for the 2002 St. Jude Memphis Marathon, two of my closest friends and I jumped out at a 7:04...

Contentment

As the House of Lords fiercely debated whether or not it was appropriate to investigate British slavery in the Caribbean...

Humility

I was at Crunch, on the second rep of my bicep curls, and without warning, I nearly dropped the weights. "I just want to...

Forgiveness

I recently contributed to two Meal Trains. One person had a baby, another is fighting cancer. I didn't know how to get a...

Love

Toward the end of his life, the missionary John Paton recalled how his father, James Paton, saw him off to college. His...

Discipleship

The discolored, funky-smelling jerseys made middle school P.E. bad enough. But the worst part was when teams were picked...

Courage

"Titus 3:10. No reply needed." When I read her email, I gasped. I knew how to decode this message from an important lead...

Church Hurt

When I served as a campus minister at Harvard, I sometimes wondered if I belonged there. Everyone seemed to have themsel...

Confession

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